August 28, 2009
When you’re a teenager, parents can give you all the advice in the world, based on their wealth of experience, because, after all, they were once teenagers too. But will you listen? Is it really possible to separate parents’ advice from parents’ perceived restrictions? It’s a rare teen who can.
So, Taylor Swift’s advice to 15-year old teens, though specifically targeting an age, is likely a godsend for parents, as Swift’s young age is much more relatable to the high school demographic than they can ever hope to be. As Taylor has comported herself very respectably so far, she has become an ideal role model for teens experiencing the angst of high school life. She’s been there, not so long ago, and she has done a remarkable job of remaining relatable to the population to which she sings. Therefore, she likely feels much more relevant than the parents and other well meaning adults who are forced to speak from somewhat distant memories.
When a teen girl is cautioned about the strong emotions that arise from teen love, it’s much more palatable coming from someone who has been there so recently. It’s, somehow, less invasive. While a parent may not be able to easily discuss certain sensitive topics without seeming cerebral, someone like Swift can address the same sensitive issues by simply being real: “Back then I swore I was gonna marry him someday/But I realized some bigger dreams of mine/And Abigail gave everything she had to a boy/Who changed his mind and we both cried.”
What’s more, she humbly acknowledges, “I’ve found time can heal most anything/And you just might find who you’re supposed to be/I didn’t know who I was supposed to be at fifteen.”
Something that Taylor Swift can do that even the wisest of parents cannot do quite as effectively, is quietly enter the mind of the average teenager. Swift does not lecture in this tastefully produced and well written song, she simply relates.
Written by Taylor Swift